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78Fight Depression by Dealing with Toxic Personality Individuals
In this article you'll find a treatment for
depression with does not involved any antidepressant pills or medication. You'll learn how to treat depression by kicking out five kinds of people with nasty personality traits from your life. Read on - this should be very enlightening!
At any point in our lives it is normal to experience symptoms depression sadness and emotional mood sadness. There is no shame in being diagnosed with depression. For some of us it can be getting teen depression and for others it can be more serious chronic depressive disorders which leads to clinical depression that must be treated with depression medications. While we are all at risk for depression it's absolutely vital that we take the proper steps to fight, prevent and stop depression and mood disorders so that we may take back control and maintain stability in our emotional lives. We can seek the help of a professional psychologist or counsellor for curing depression or we can attempt to take charge of our own depression and treat it by reading and exploring the subject on the Internet.
I have developed a method which treats mild depression without the need of antidepressant medications or pills. It involves identifying and labelling which I refer to as the "toxic personalities" or "poisonous people" we've met in our lives. By dealing with these people in an extremely direct way you will be able to take back control of your life and emotions and consequentially be able to enrichen yourself with happiness and potentially financial gains.
In the paragraphs below I will define the five toxic or poisonous personality traits. Then, I'll make suggestions for how to deal with these people. For now, you need to make a list of and identify people with the following negative personality characteristics and traits:
1. People who are pompous towards you. We've all known people like this. No matter what we say about ourselves that is positive, even if it's not bragging but just stating our positive attributes, they will stick their noses up in the air and simply ignore anything good we have to say about ourselves. These people are pompous and probably have huge personal issues of their own and we must avoid contact with them at all costs if we seek to be emotional and financially successful.
2. People who make condescending comments towards you. Again, another toxic personality characteristic. Condescending comments are very easy to identify. I once had a boss who told me I was a "terrible person" on a daily basis. This person had a personality that smelled like rotten eggs and I paid a dear price with my happiness while in working for this individual. If anybody makes comments to you such as "You're no good", You're a bad or horrible person", or "So-and-So is much better than you or does a much better job" you must do everything in your power to separate yourself from this individual because they will put a major dent in your happiness which will most likely lead to depression.
3. Talks negatively about you behind your back. This is a simple one and very straight forward. Whenever you find out that a friend, family member, co-worker or even acquaintance has spoken negatively behind your back they have revealed themselves to be a toxic individual in your life. Associating with this person will do you no good and it's curtail that you break ties with this individual for your own happiness.
4. People with whom you're walking on eggshells. We have all known people like this. If we say "A" we're in the wrong and if we say "B" we're in the wrong. No matter what we say to people with this personality trait, often referred to as Borderline Personality Disorder we're in the wrong and simply end up feeling bad about ourselves and depressed. Eggshell individuals are toxic people and most likely have a long list of "victims" who they made contributed to their depression in their lifetimes. Avoid them at all costs.
5. People who pours cold water on your ideas. This is a big one but cannot be overlooked. We have all known people who have belittled our ideas, plans and inspirations. Their reasons for doing this are undoubtedly linked to their own personality shortcomings. But, the result is that we end up feeling bad about ourselves and unhappy. Anybody who pours cold water on your ideas belongs in one place in your life: OUT. In order to achieve emotional happiness and financial success it is absolutely curtail that we surround ourselves with people who encourage us to pursue our dreams and give positive encouragement when we need help and are not feeling good about ourselves.
In an attempt to deal with depression and regain your happiness it is crucial that you either remove these trouble, or "toxic" personalities from your life. I have two recommendation for dealing with this. In your first attempt try to approach the person with a telephone call or email. If you can arrange a face-to-face meeting all the better. Here you need to have some courage. Tell them your issue. For example, "John, I have an issue with your constant pouring cold water on my ideas. This has led to my not feeling good about myself and I would like it to end. What are your thoughts?" If the person is able to communicate with you in a mature and adult-like way - GREAT! That person isn't so toxic or bad after all and the relationship can continue. You're well on your way to become a happier person. But, if the person takes offense and shuts the doors to communication they have REVEALED themselves to indeed be toxic and you will DO YOUSELF A HUGE FAVOR by walking way from that relationship forever.
I strongly believe that in order to be happy in life, fight depression and reach your emotional and financial goals it's of huge importance that you rid yourself of these toxic people and surround yourself with winners who seek to inspire and help you.
I welcome you feedback, both positive and negative, and look forward to reading your thoughts.
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Thank you!
I really like this article. This is one of the many essential ways to deal with a mood disorder or depression. While I can't say that I have dealt with depressions, I have bouts of negativity moods/behaviors and I know how devastating that can be. I also have many family members diagnosed by medical professions who have depression and it really sux. You are VERY VERY right about how depression can sometimes come about, or worsen. In everything that people do, whether they are depressed or not, people must avoid negative people as much as they can because it is very easy to adopt that type of thinking--its highly contagious. When I was around certain people with the personality types mentioned above, I was not doing very well in life because I let those ppl effect me and contribute to doubting myself. For a person suffering from depression, this is extremely toxic.
Great article and comments. I just Googled "toxic people traits" because I needed some insight about the guy I just started dating a month ago. At first I thought we might have a lot in common - with job loss/economy issues and could relate and have compassion for each other. Unfortunately as the relationship "newness" wore off - I began to feel really down about myself and my situation. He began to say things like "You are so totally screwed" and "How could anyone let their life get so bad?" and also "I would NEVER have let THAT happen"... Geez - if I stayed with him I think I would of jumped out a window by now I would have been SO depressed. He said he "felt sorry for me and was trying his hardest to make me happy" (really:)?!#* However, I was the one who came up with all the cheery positive comments - that he dismissed as "stupid" or "you don't know things are going to get better". As we know - during tough times it is not easy to keep smiling when our lives are not how we would like them to be at the moment, but we must stay positive and have hope, right? His "wet blanket" attitude was more than I could bear! I've been hanging around my positive, amazing friends and getting my feet back on the ground. I'm feeling way less down and getting my life force back. Yay! I will be sure to red flag a toxic person sooner, as a survival skill now. Thanks again!
These are very good suggestions. Thank you.
I have met all of these persons with these types of personality traits. It is good advice to stay away from them, but what if you have to work with them? What is the best way to stop them from being this way.
your a moron
Thank you! i really felt this way about a few people and i feel as if i am going through some sort of crisis. i realize now that it is only around a select few people and they are as you mentioned. They have toxic personalities that "poison" other's good feelings. i can only describe it as dissociation! I have felt this way for years but now that im older i cannot deal with it anymore or keep it supressed. I am going to follow the advice of your article and Thank you for posting it!
This type of person can engage in a form of passive toxicity towards you as well. I was once released from a chief management job with great pay. One person interloper in my life went on and on about his claim that he was a computer business expert, all very nice in my time of being down and out. So, I am now back on my feet, but came to find out that this computer expert sold used computers to migrant workers who left the PC units out in the rain. So a therapy is to laugh at the toxics when you find out about them. This lifts me over every time!
A very enlightening hub. You have made many good points. thanks
This wisdom comes easier once you've grown and learned to love yourself. Once you love yourself you know that these negative people have no place in your life.
My motto
People come into your life for a reason,a season or a lifetime.
Once you know where to place them,it's easy to erase them!
this was really nice.. loved it i put it up in my school notice board, no worries i identified it as your work.
i would like if you could write more on class room issues and how to overcome them. please address more on problems faced by teenagers.. ??? thankyou.. and tc
Good suggestions.
So anybody who says anything we don't want to hear, remove them from our lives at once. There's no such thig as good advice if it didn't come from this article, right?
Wonderful article. Good insight and very enlightening. Your suggestions are right on the mark. I learned a long time ago, that these negative people can really do a number on your self confidence, self esteem, and drag you down to their level if you let them. I dump negative people ASAP and with absolutely no regrets - and this has included many of my family members. Good job.
this is the first time ive seen toxic personality and borderline personality disorder associated with each other, but i think you hit the nail on the head! terribly lonely, sad people. hell bent on destroying those who care so as to fuel their self loathing.
stupid article,...........
This is easier said than done with family members! I have the borderline personality disorder people in my extended family - my mom's sister's entire family of 4, that my mom is very,very close to. For the sake of my mom, I can't even cut them loose as much as I want to.
It was so easy for me to decide to cut the corrosive relationship with my mother off. It came down to one simple question; if this person was not a family member would I sever the relationship?
This was very helpful. It cleared some ideas that i am suppossed to do with the toxics in my life. It seems that i ve always have them in my life. And they all gave me the same treatment. Treated me like a worthless piece of c--p. Thank you very much. God bless you.
I am surrounded by 3 people that fit they toxic personalities described here and its no coincidence that I've been battling depression and feelings of inadequacy. Anyway, I'm on the way to changing all of it.
I too have had my share of people like this that want to drag you down with their hidden subliminal messages and their negativity. And talk behind your back. I have too decided to seperate myself from them bad company is no good for your health.Ive been surrounding and speaking to genuine people who want the very best for me and are there for my best interest. I love this article.
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Depends on what is going on?
I want to be a supportive friend BUT--BUT, what if your friend is incredibly self-destructive?
What if they are blocking the universe from being positive by making terrible choices?
I literally had to beg one newly laidoff gal friend to keep her from getting ripped off in Nigerian internet scams, then immediately afterwards it's scams by her druggie grown daughter, & a NEW boyfriend that immediately wants to borrow $4k from her. Since we stopped her from getting scammed from all these, she immediately got into a pyramid selling scheme and now cannot pay her house taxes.
Great Hub! I've had a few of these types of people cross paths with me in my lifetime....and I can not agree more. Don't walk..RUN from them! lol
They are not healthy at all and will suck the happiness out of you.
Great article. I've been reading a lot about toxic relationships in recent months due to a former friend's behavior over the last 8-9 months. She's with an emotionally & verbally abusive man. We are also co-workers part of the week. She was hot/cold not only with me but with co-workers. She's unhappy w/her guy so she takes it out on everyone else. The "walking on eggshells" bit really hit home w/me. She really sets the tone for the work environment when she's there. I've backed away from her big time since the first of the year. My New Year's resolution was to no longer call her just to chat like I used to. She has called me a few times but most generally, it's when she wants something. She's a user & doesn't seem to have much conscience when it comes to other people's feelings. She'll jump through hoops for her guy though. He has her right where he wants her. I tried talking to her late last summer a couple times & she totally did not want to talk about what was bothering her or why she was behaving the way she was. In the end, she's going to be friendless. Her guy is a jerk & I think she knows that but she's chosen to remain w/him. Now, I have detached from her & am a lot happier. Life is too short to keep working at friendships that are beyond repair.
This is the most ridiculous article I have read in a long time. Blaming depression on the people in your life will never make it better. Depression is something that you have to work on with yourself, helped by a psychologist.
People like you are the reason why the Internet is polluted with non-sense. Please stop writing, and stop trying to give any advice. Thanks
My little sister is so condescending & dismisses or disagrees with everything I say to her. My brother is a complete jerk & my daughter is bi-polar! How can I take myself out of this mess? Already have with my brother really but he lives in another state so it's easier!
Thanks for your input, there are all types of people out there and if they are toxic to you just be upfront with (she/he/they)be respectful
and if there is no resolve leave it alone. One thing you could do that would be positive- is pray for them. Prayer is always a good way to release the negative emotions.
Thank you
My whole family on my fathers side have toxic personalities I have cut myself from them because its an ongoing cycle they are always putting me down and treating me like dirt including my own father I havent spoke to any of them in months. Im still very depressed but at the same time ur family should be there for u during tuff times not there to make ur tuff times worse I do not agree that this method makes u happier and will cure depression but it does help a little bit not having to hear the hurtful comments. and it is my way of standing up for myself
What about when they are your parent(s)???? Are you just supposed to let go of them?
PegCole17 Level 7 Commenter 2 years ago
You're right on with this one. The nay-sayers are everywhere. I had a boss like the one you describe. For five years I kept trying to get on his good side until I finally realized he didn't have one. Condescending people and those who rain on your parade should be avoided whenever possible. Great writing and keep the faith.